Comments for 24 Hour construction Loans http://www.24hourconstructionloans.com California Construction Loans Wed, 24 Feb 2010 15:53:59 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 Comment on Getting On The Property Ladder by rsriram_1999 http://www.24hourconstructionloans.com/construction-loan/getting-on-the-property-ladder/comment-page-1#comment-167 rsriram_1999 Wed, 24 Feb 2010 15:53:59 +0000 http://www.24hourconstructionloans.com/construction-loan/getting-on-the-property-ladder#comment-167 yes provided you find a good partner and have a written agreement detailing all possible situations<br><b>References : </b><br> yes provided you find a good partner and have a written agreement detailing all possible situations
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]]> Comment on Getting On The Property Ladder by hakolar http://www.24hourconstructionloans.com/construction-loan/getting-on-the-property-ladder/comment-page-1#comment-166 hakolar Wed, 24 Feb 2010 10:51:18 +0000 http://www.24hourconstructionloans.com/construction-loan/getting-on-the-property-ladder#comment-166 <b>is shared ownership a good step to getting on the property ladder?</b><br>I am looking for people to share their experiences on shared ownership in United Kingdom. What are the advantages and disadvantages? Is this the right step to take getting on the property ladder as a first time buyer? is shared ownership a good step to getting on the property ladder?
I am looking for people to share their experiences on shared ownership in United Kingdom. What are the advantages and disadvantages? Is this the right step to take getting on the property ladder as a first time buyer?

]]> Comment on Is it Worth Self Building Your Home? by Keeping It Real... http://www.24hourconstructionloans.com/construction-loan/is-it-worth-self-building-your-home/comment-page-1#comment-162 Keeping It Real... Wed, 24 Feb 2010 05:02:59 +0000 http://www.24hourconstructionloans.com/construction-loan/is-it-worth-self-building-your-home#comment-162 Maybe you don't satisfy her like you use to.. If you do then you two need to seek some marriage couseling. There is no reason for your wife to be acting like that. Some women get married for all the wrong reason. To her friends she probably looks like the perfect wife. She doesn't have to work, has nice things and a wonderful husband but deep down your wife could be miserable. She isn't doing her wifely duties and if you stepped out on her she would be so devestated and probably even confused asking herself what did I do wrong. Seek some couseling and communication is a must at this point. It is time for the baby to go in her own room ASAP. She spends all day with the baby so it will not hurt her if the baby sleeps in her own room, she is using the baby so that she doesn't have to be intimate with you. I am guessing she will keep the baby in the bed until she graduates high school. Finacially you can afford a babysitter to sit with the baby while you and her go out on the town. She needs to put the baby on a schedule that fits the two of you. When you get home the baby can be napping and that gives you and her time to play around. She is doing her wifely duties by taking care of the house and child and you're doing yours by working at least you two can get together and enjoy each other. Why don't you change up your activities. Don't give her all the attention you're giving her. Treat her the same way she is treating you. Sometimes actions speaks louder than words. Invite her out on the town and if she turns you down go out anyway eventually she will get tired of you leaving her alone and she just might get her stuff together. You have to get her attention without saying anything. FYI you and your wife comes first and then your daughter. If you and your wife don't put yourself first eventually your daugher will come last. If your wife continues acting the way she is it is going to eventually put a strain on the relationship and your daughter will be the one hurting in the end.<br><b>References : </b><br> Maybe you don’t satisfy her like you use to.. If you do then you two need to seek some marriage couseling. There is no reason for your wife to be acting like that. Some women get married for all the wrong reason. To her friends she probably looks like the perfect wife. She doesn’t have to work, has nice things and a wonderful husband but deep down your wife could be miserable. She isn’t doing her wifely duties and if you stepped out on her she would be so devestated and probably even confused asking herself what did I do wrong. Seek some couseling and communication is a must at this point.

It is time for the baby to go in her own room ASAP. She spends all day with the baby so it will not hurt her if the baby sleeps in her own room, she is using the baby so that she doesn’t have to be intimate with you. I am guessing she will keep the baby in the bed until she graduates high school.

Finacially you can afford a babysitter to sit with the baby while you and her go out on the town. She needs to put the baby on a schedule that fits the two of you. When you get home the baby can be napping and that gives you and her time to play around. She is doing her wifely duties by taking care of the house and child and you’re doing yours by working at least you two can get together and enjoy each other.

Why don’t you change up your activities. Don’t give her all the attention you’re giving her. Treat her the same way she is treating you. Sometimes actions speaks louder than words. Invite her out on the town and if she turns you down go out anyway eventually she will get tired of you leaving her alone and she just might get her stuff together. You have to get her attention without saying anything.

FYI you and your wife comes first and then your daughter. If you and your wife don’t put yourself first eventually your daugher will come last. If your wife continues acting the way she is it is going to eventually put a strain on the relationship and your daughter will be the one hurting in the end.
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]]> Comment on Is it Worth Self Building Your Home? by Scott S http://www.24hourconstructionloans.com/construction-loan/is-it-worth-self-building-your-home/comment-page-1#comment-161 Scott S Wed, 24 Feb 2010 05:00:59 +0000 http://www.24hourconstructionloans.com/construction-loan/is-it-worth-self-building-your-home#comment-161 I am not sure that my story will help....but here goes.... After 17 years of hearing how she would "try and do better" I finally had enough and decided to move on. She knew she was driving us apart and she knew what the eventual consequences COULD be but she had grown so complacent, she really didn't believe I would actually GO. She refused to get counseling. She refused to compromise. I refused to spend my life beating my head against the wall. Women who morph from girlfriend to wife to mother without remembering that they were girlfriend FIRST do not understand men very well. Women can be all of those things, but need to be mindful of what relationship got them there and not let it whither and die...... I waited until the kids were older....and I found happiness. The sad thing is, after so long of trying and trying to work it out between us to no avail, she blames ME. My advice is to show her these answers...(all of them). You might as well put your cards on the table in a stark and indisputable way......She needs to know where this is headed. Good Luck to you both!<br><b>References : </b><br> I am not sure that my story will help….but here goes….

After 17 years of hearing how she would "try and do better" I finally had enough and decided to move on. She knew she was driving us apart and she knew what the eventual consequences COULD be but she had grown so complacent, she really didn’t believe I would actually GO. She refused to get counseling. She refused to compromise.

I refused to spend my life beating my head against the wall.

Women who morph from girlfriend to wife to mother without remembering that they were girlfriend FIRST do not understand men very well. Women can be all of those things, but need to be mindful of what relationship got them there and not let it whither and die……

I waited until the kids were older….and I found happiness. The sad thing is, after so long of trying and trying to work it out between us to no avail, she blames ME.

My advice is to show her these answers…(all of them). You might as well put your cards on the table in a stark and indisputable way……She needs to know where this is headed.

Good Luck to you both!
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]]> Comment on Is it Worth Self Building Your Home? by boaviator http://www.24hourconstructionloans.com/construction-loan/is-it-worth-self-building-your-home/comment-page-1#comment-160 boaviator Wed, 24 Feb 2010 04:58:59 +0000 http://www.24hourconstructionloans.com/construction-loan/is-it-worth-self-building-your-home#comment-160 Dude -- I don't have an answer for you but I am right there with you. Every line of what you described is my situation to a "T". It is absolutely killing me and our relationship. She's got every excuse (and illness -- read: psychosomatic) in the world as to why she can't be intimate. You can't "make" her have sex. I am just now (after 16 years of marriage and 10 years of suffering through this nightmare and trying everything in the book) realizing that it very likely won't ever get better as I have, like you, tried everything. As they say, you can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink. So, I have made the decision to not separate or divorce but, instead, to start looking for an equally frustrated unfulfilled married woman to share an outside the marriage relationship. I don't like it either but I like it less than a divorce and less than someday looking back and realizing I gave up passion and intimacy that I can't get back. For those of you thinking I am not meeting her emotional needs or not communicating with her or the rest of the standard replies, forget it. I have worked HARD to address each and everyone of these issues to no avail. And no, I don't believe for a minute there is something wrong with her physically that is solely the cause of this problem. Yes, there may be some physical contributors from time to time but that's not the real problem. The real problem, in my mind, is a deep seeded inability to understand and feel comfortable with physical closeness and her own sexuality. She was raised in a family where Mom ran the household and no one showed physical love for another. We did the counselling thing many times and each time, the counselor concluded there were these deep issues she needed to address in further counseling and each time, she was always "too busy" to pursue her own counseling. In the end, it is she that is missing out on the passion and deep connection with her husband that only physical intimacy can bring. For me, I've got to have it (not one night stands but a real needs meeting relationship) and if I have to go outside the marriage to get it while keeping the family unit together I guess I'll have to do it. Any of you ladies out there in SoCal who are in my situation with your husband who would like to IM, text or email, post an answer and I'll provide a Gmail email address for you to reply to.<br><b>References : </b><br> Dude — I don’t have an answer for you but I am right there with you. Every line of what you described is my situation to a "T". It is absolutely killing me and our relationship. She’s got every excuse (and illness — read: psychosomatic) in the world as to why she can’t be intimate.

You can’t "make" her have sex. I am just now (after 16 years of marriage and 10 years of suffering through this nightmare and trying everything in the book) realizing that it very likely won’t ever get better as I have, like you, tried everything. As they say, you can lead a horse to water but you can’t make it drink. So, I have made the decision to not separate or divorce but, instead, to start looking for an equally frustrated unfulfilled married woman to share an outside the marriage relationship. I don’t like it either but I like it less than a divorce and less than someday looking back and realizing I gave up passion and intimacy that I can’t get back.

For those of you thinking I am not meeting her emotional needs or not communicating with her or the rest of the standard replies, forget it. I have worked HARD to address each and everyone of these issues to no avail. And no, I don’t believe for a minute there is something wrong with her physically that is solely the cause of this problem. Yes, there may be some physical contributors from time to time but that’s not the real problem. The real problem, in my mind, is a deep seeded inability to understand and feel comfortable with physical closeness and her own sexuality. She was raised in a family where Mom ran the household and no one showed physical love for another.

We did the counselling thing many times and each time, the counselor concluded there were these deep issues she needed to address in further counseling and each time, she was always "too busy" to pursue her own counseling.

In the end, it is she that is missing out on the passion and deep connection with her husband that only physical intimacy can bring. For me, I’ve got to have it (not one night stands but a real needs meeting relationship) and if I have to go outside the marriage to get it while keeping the family unit together I guess I’ll have to do it.

Any of you ladies out there in SoCal who are in my situation with your husband who would like to IM, text or email, post an answer and I’ll provide a Gmail email address for you to reply to.
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]]> Comment on Is it Worth Self Building Your Home? by sulaimaan ibn ya'quub http://www.24hourconstructionloans.com/construction-loan/is-it-worth-self-building-your-home/comment-page-1#comment-159 sulaimaan ibn ya'quub Wed, 24 Feb 2010 04:56:59 +0000 http://www.24hourconstructionloans.com/construction-loan/is-it-worth-self-building-your-home#comment-159 my fellow son of aadam [adam] 'alaihi salaam, i feel for you, you should sit down & talk with your wife. explain how you feel in detail to her, if that doesn't work seek marriage councelling. and alast, maybe...just maybe you should look into marring another wife, look brother your feelings matter too, & why should you be put on the back burner all the time...THAT isn't FAIR! if she has a problem with the taking of another wife explain to her that if you had a nickle for every time you tried to talk to her about this you'd be able to retire now, tell her don't be upset that this decision wouldn't came to this if she had of listened to you. there ISN'T anything wrong with being in LOVE...just don't be made a fool of brother. your sexual itamcy needs are neglected full-time & she REALLY expected you not to go elsewhere after you cry for intamacy fell apon deaf-ears?!!! let's be real. another option could be taking of a concubine, there isn't anything wrong with this either, nor let anyone convince you otherwise. many men in the bible did so...this is another way to "keep the peace in your home" & you could visit her a few times a week etc. i know, understand & accept that my answer won't be popular especally with women...& that's ok' with me, because at the end of the day atleast i'm real & honest about it. brother if you need more advice just need to lalk...you have my e-mail address. and i wish you PEACE!!!<br><b>References : </b><br>a muslim polygamist with two wives in the u.s.a., one wife is a cruel & unusual form of tourture... my fellow son of aadam [adam] ‘alaihi salaam, i feel for you, you should sit down & talk with your wife. explain how you feel in detail to her, if that doesn’t work seek marriage councelling. and alast, maybe…just maybe you should look into marring another wife, look brother your feelings matter too, & why should you be put on the back burner all the time…THAT isn’t FAIR! if she has a problem with the taking of another wife explain to her that if you had a nickle for every time you tried to talk to her about this you’d be able to retire now, tell her don’t be upset that this decision wouldn’t came to this if she had of listened to you.

there ISN’T anything wrong with being in LOVE…just don’t be made a fool of brother. your sexual itamcy needs are neglected full-time & she REALLY expected you not to go elsewhere after you cry for intamacy fell apon deaf-ears?!!! let’s be real.

another option could be taking of a concubine, there isn’t anything wrong with this either, nor let anyone convince you otherwise. many men in the bible did so…this is another way to "keep the peace in your home" & you could visit her a few times a week etc.

i know, understand & accept that my answer won’t be popular especally with women…& that’s ok’ with me, because at the end of the day atleast i’m real & honest about it. brother if you need more advice just need to lalk…you have my e-mail address. and i wish you PEACE!!!
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a muslim polygamist with two wives in the u.s.a., one wife is a cruel & unusual form of tourture…

]]> Comment on Is it Worth Self Building Your Home? by Romina R http://www.24hourconstructionloans.com/construction-loan/is-it-worth-self-building-your-home/comment-page-1#comment-158 Romina R Wed, 24 Feb 2010 04:54:59 +0000 http://www.24hourconstructionloans.com/construction-loan/is-it-worth-self-building-your-home#comment-158 look ill take you ! (lol) (jk) im married too. And i feel the same way about my hubby at times, he works, and goes to school, and comes home super duper tired..and honestly i have restented him for that because we also have a child but he dont sleep with us luckily, But either way i ask him all the time for nooky...and he says he too tired he needs to relax and he always puts me aside, at night i want to talk to him and cuddle and just talk and he rather play ps3 and come and lay down to sleep and he leaves me with words in my mouth, now im just tired of asking him...He tells me the day i stop asking maybe he'll do it, i ask him everyday....he says it gets annoying. So lately i've TRIED to stop nagging and just go with it and maybe even ignore him, suprisingly the no attention i give him gets him all annoyed and is on top of me asking why dont i talk to him or why iam ignoring him? Then he'll do what i use to ask for to get my attention. Maybe you should do the same, Try to not give her what she wants all the time, try to ignore her, give her less importance...she'll feel it trust me. Then when she asks why...Give her the speech and let her know how you feel, tell her you give her EVERYTHING and the moon if she asks (wink) but you ask for one thing and that one she cant even give, ask her to give you atleast one hour a day if she wants to keep the "relationship" going. because in all honesty as much as you may want it she may not be trying hard to keep it...it takes 2 not one...they say its better to give than recieve but in this case maybe its time for you to recieve also. You should try maybe a bible study...it really helps! Maybe you should even try to set up one whole day to yourselfs and or one whole night...you take care of things that day, send her for a spa, tell her not worry you've got the whole day prepared and set...tell her to relax.. while shes there get the house clean and ready then get a babysitter so you can drop off your child then prepare a romantic night for the 2 of you, once your there you can really sit down and talk about the whole ordeal and maybe even get freaky...Show some love so you can recieve some...no excuses! try this maybe once a month with different ideas...let me know what happens~<br><b>References : </b><br> look ill take you ! (lol) (jk) im married too. And i feel the same way about my hubby at times, he works, and goes to school, and comes home super duper tired..and honestly i have restented him for that because we also have a child but he dont sleep with us luckily, But either way i ask him all the time for nooky…and he says he too tired he needs to relax and he always puts me aside, at night i want to talk to him and cuddle and just talk and he rather play ps3 and come and lay down to sleep and he leaves me with words in my mouth, now im just tired of asking him…He tells me the day i stop asking maybe he’ll do it, i ask him everyday….he says it gets annoying. So lately i’ve TRIED to stop nagging and just go with it and maybe even ignore him, suprisingly the no attention i give him gets him all annoyed and is on top of me asking why dont i talk to him or why iam ignoring him? Then he’ll do what i use to ask for to get my attention. Maybe you should do the same, Try to not give her what she wants all the time, try to ignore her, give her less importance…she’ll feel it trust me. Then when she asks why…Give her the speech and let her know how you feel, tell her you give her EVERYTHING and the moon if she asks (wink) but you ask for one thing and that one she cant even give, ask her to give you atleast one hour a day if she wants to keep the "relationship" going. because in all honesty as much as you may want it she may not be trying hard to keep it…it takes 2 not one…they say its better to give than recieve but in this case maybe its time for you to recieve also. You should try maybe a bible study…it really helps! Maybe you should even try to set up one whole day to yourselfs and or one whole night…you take care of things that day, send her for a spa, tell her not worry you’ve got the whole day prepared and set…tell her to relax.. while shes there get the house clean and ready then get a babysitter so you can drop off your child then prepare a romantic night for the 2 of you, once your there you can really sit down and talk about the whole ordeal and maybe even get freaky…Show some love so you can recieve some…no excuses! try this maybe once a month with different ideas…let me know what happens~
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]]> Comment on Is it Worth Self Building Your Home? by Tia http://www.24hourconstructionloans.com/construction-loan/is-it-worth-self-building-your-home/comment-page-1#comment-157 Tia Wed, 24 Feb 2010 04:52:59 +0000 http://www.24hourconstructionloans.com/construction-loan/is-it-worth-self-building-your-home#comment-157 Your points are all very valid. I think a trip to a marriage counsellor would be helpful. I admire your commitment to your marriage, and if your wife feels the same sort of commitment, she will be happy to go along to counselling with you to talk over the issues you've raised here.<br><b>References : </b><br> Your points are all very valid. I think a trip to a marriage counsellor would be helpful. I admire your commitment to your marriage, and if your wife feels the same sort of commitment, she will be happy to go along to counselling with you to talk over the issues you’ve raised here.
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]]> Comment on Is it Worth Self Building Your Home? by 22 weeks pregnant <3 http://www.24hourconstructionloans.com/construction-loan/is-it-worth-self-building-your-home/comment-page-1#comment-156 22 weeks pregnant <3 Wed, 24 Feb 2010 04:50:59 +0000 http://www.24hourconstructionloans.com/construction-loan/is-it-worth-self-building-your-home#comment-156 This isnt going to get fixed because your wife isnt as dedicated as you are in fixing it. you say you cant move your daughter to her own room because your wife is so use to it. I understand that but it HAS to be done. It will be hard, very hard but it has to be done for your relationship and your daughter. Your daughter needs to learn her independance and learn how to feel safe in her own room. she will be overly dependant when its time to go to school or do other things where your wife can not be. anways thats just about one of your points.. Until your wife is dedicated to fixing your sex life it wont get fixed. Her wanting you to read the women part in the book and then ignoring the male part is just selfish. She needs to want to change before you guys can fix this. I would see professional help just because theres so much going on and it might open your wives eyes to your view on things. and maybe open your eyes on her view on things.. good luck<br><b>References : </b><br> This isnt going to get fixed because your wife isnt as dedicated as you are in fixing it.
you say you cant move your daughter to her own room because your wife is so use to it. I understand that but it HAS to be done. It will be hard, very hard but it has to be done for your relationship and your daughter. Your daughter needs to learn her independance and learn how to feel safe in her own room. she will be overly dependant when its time to go to school or do other things where your wife can not be. anways thats just about one of your points..

Until your wife is dedicated to fixing your sex life it wont get fixed. Her wanting you to read the women part in the book and then ignoring the male part is just selfish. She needs to want to change before you guys can fix this. I would see professional help just because theres so much going on and it might open your wives eyes to your view on things. and maybe open your eyes on her view on things..

good luck
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]]> Comment on Is it Worth Self Building Your Home? by accuristau http://www.24hourconstructionloans.com/construction-loan/is-it-worth-self-building-your-home/comment-page-1#comment-155 accuristau Wed, 24 Feb 2010 04:48:59 +0000 http://www.24hourconstructionloans.com/construction-loan/is-it-worth-self-building-your-home#comment-155 Yep, totally agree with the previous answerer.<br><b>References : </b><br> Yep, totally agree with the previous answerer.
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